That pair of slippers the kids and I are giving you for Father’s Day doesn’t seem adequate. If I was to give you a worthy gift to honor your parenting it would be something like a caribou hunt in the great white north. Since the hunt is currently out of reach, I hope the slippers suffice; for now anyway.
When I consider what you do, day in and day out, I don’t know how I could ever honor you enough, but maybe just listing what you do in a day would be a good start.
- You get up with Ben during the night because he goes back to bed better for you.
- You give Ben his meds because he takes them better for you.
- You start Ben’s daily bowel flush because he complies better for you. (Is anyone noticing a trend here?)
- You catheterize Ben because he prefers you to do it.
- You take the boys outside with you while you do odd jobs around the house.
- You notice when laundry or other cleaning gets backed up and take the time to do it.
- You maintain the house, constantly making improvements and adaptations for the boys.
- You make sure I have time to take care of myself and exercise.
- You take Hannah on a father/daughter fishing trip every year.
- You maintain our vehicles.
- You pinch hit for any of the tasks I normally handle including doctor appointments, school dealings, and driving the kids wherever they need to go.
- You show me daily how much you love me, and say it too.
- Oh, yeah, you work full-time too.
There’s more, so much more that I actually take for granted because you just do it. People often tell me that they don’t know how I do it. The truth is that it’s a team effort, it’s us managing this complex life, not me.
Today I want you to know how much I value you. I want to thank you for making sure we’re equally yoked because the weight is lighter for both of us when we share it.